Sunday, 15 October 2017

The fear of ghost girls in horror

It seems a pattern in films. It’s said among people that ghost girls are regarded as “creepier” than other ghosts. Girl ghosts spook people more than headless horsemen do. The latter, headless horsemen, looks sillier than how people used to feel about them. People used to be scared of ghosts wearing white sheets and rattling chains. We don't encounter this much now. Do we?
There was a time when ghost girls were often reminded of dark “fairies” and the antagonist females in the folklore legends. These feared girls often appear as to people as omens of doom and death, like the Banshee, Rusalka, Rhine Maidens, elf women of Scandinavia, sirens, succubus, harpies, Morrigan, (reaper maidens) Valkyries, nymphs, mermaids, Amazons, Kitsune, ect. All these mystical and paranormal girls have been part of legends and folklore for ages.
There is something to be said about creepy girls or creepy girl ghosts, in horror and myths, whether or not they’re spirits of the dead, or simply creatures of the night, goddesses or just dark spirits. Supernatural girls frighten people a lot more than you think as the human psyche is full of fear from tales we were told as small children.
Ghost girls have been associated with death for thousands of years. In Neil Gaiman's fictional world of the "Sandman", a girl is named Death and she is death itself. The visions of the ghostly twin sisters in "The Shining" and the demonic Regan girl in "Exorcist" have a lasting impression or scarring on the mind to many. So this could be why girl ghosts are popular and frightening in films. Just my two pence!

Read more on this subject:

The original post was made by me on Quora, by Rayne Belladonna. Some parts of this post on my blog have been slightly edited to correct spelling and add more stuff.
The top image is "Creepy Girl" made by Rayne, using Dress Up Games.

Psychic bullying

The question "What is psychic bullying?" prompted me to answer.

It’s when a person, who is able to communicate with the dead, is being harassed and bullied by spirits. It could be a whole group of them that do this against one person. The psychic may be unable to block out the cruel words and can’t help but hear nasty things said about them. It could be something else too.
Poltergeist activity. Some people may be living under fear of unseen forces. Someone needs to understand why this happened first of all and what woke up this energy in particular. Usually it’s a ouija board that unlocks a door.
Psychic bullying can dress itself up as mental illness, or psychosis. For example, vulnerable people who are ill, on drugs or women that just gave birth to a baby, would be open to dark entities. They would feel a sense of dread, and be tricked into thinking those entities are benign to win trust and then become under their control. Spirits of a sinister nature can cause brainwashing into individual people.
Finally a spirit or spirits who have complete control over a person’s life, and dominate how the person should be every day. Choosing what they should eat, wear, watch on TV, read, ect. This is usually vulnerable people with mental illness who suffer psychic attacks like this from sinister entities.  

By Rayne Belladonna 
Source of Q & A

Wednesday, 11 October 2017

World of werewolves

In reply to a question on Quora "What would happen if the whole world were werewolves?"

Society would change. The elite would pass laws so that werewolves don’t commit atrocities in their transformed shapes. Certain bad werewolves would go to prison for being a danger to the rest of society. There will be wolf like packs in human establishments, with the leaders being alphas and the strongest of all.

Humans would resort to “hunter gatherer” mode because of the werewolf side. No more would people consume or even produce junk food. People wouldn’t need cars anymore so there would be no car pollution.

Certain countrysides would alter. Towns and cities might be left abandoned so that werewolves could live in communities of their own making, and leave these concrete cities with bright lights forever. People would lose the human needs to gamble, take drugs, play team sports, jealousy, nationalism and poverty. Also hospitals, police, courts, schools, trains, electric grid,factories, ect would finish.

Werewolf communities would be too strong and physically able to care for themselves without the need for cars, bikes, ect. Werewolf immune system would be much stronger and any rogue werewolf would be killed. There will be a tragic end to domestic animals in farms, they would perish or get eaten. Werewolves wouldn’t farm them. Once farm animals get eaten, escape or just killed, werewolves would become intune with the cycles of nature and recognise hunting season. Lots of wild animals would die. Domestic dogs and cats would be most vulnerable. You may get some werewolves with sympathy and kindness who will care for stray injured and frightened cats and dogs.

It would return to the Dark Ages.

By Rayne Belladonna   

Tuesday, 10 October 2017

Gloom Girls Project: Lizzie Borden

This is a new project about dark ladies, iron maidens and evil queens. It's the opposite to my "Golden Girl Project" series that I made years ago on this blog. Golden Girls is all about ladies of light. The Gloom Project is about ladies of darkness. Obsidious beauty, dark souls and stone hearts. Each post will focus on one such lady of gloom. 

Lizzie Borden

Lizzie Borden took an axe
And gave her mother forty whacks.
And when she saw what she had done,
She gave her father forty-one.

The above is a rhyme doggerel that children can sing and remember. It was created out of thin air in the year 1893, the time of Lizzie's trial. Who was this Lizzie Borden and why is there a strange creepy song about her?
Lizzie was born on 19th July 1860 in Fall River, Massachusettes. Her father, Andrew Jackson Borden, was from a respectable family but he had financial difficulties. He ended up working in the furniture business where he did better and provided for his family. He later turned to property and managing, seeing over various factories and manufacturing. He was raised as a president of a banking company, and his salery grew and his estate reached a value of over two hundred thousand dollars. Andrew's friends and relatives were of the trend setting and gentlemen and lady types. They found Andrew somewhat shabby as he didn't live their wealthy lifestyle. 
His house was like a haunted house. It was a grey walled house, three storyes high, filled with rooms and secret passages, surrounded by a white picket fence and a spooky tree stood just outside the front. It had a terrible plumbing system and decay. Today, that house still stands there but it's been redourated, painted green and there are more flowers growing in the yard turned garden. It's now a B&B.
Growing up, Lizzie was playing with her older sister, Emma, within the crumbling house. Their strict stepmother, Abby, wanted both to have a religious upbringing. They attended church and other Christian groups. Lizzie went to Morgan Street School. According to her school friends and teachers, Lizzie spoke unkindly of her stepmother. However, people remembered Abby as a kind sweet lady. It seems clear that of her school reports, Lizzie didn't do too fantastic but not bad at her achievments. She also didn't get on well with others. Described as a small "blooming strapping lass", with brown hair and such cold eyes.
Some former school buddies remember her as a loner and "sarcastic" who kept one friend. After Lizzie grew up, she became a secretary and a member of the Fruit and Flower Mission. Around the time of the infamous event, everyone had become ill. On 4th August 1892, Lizzie picked up an axe and then killed both her father and stepmother. Abby was given 18 or 19 whacks of the blade, while Adrew got 11 hits. Some believe that she didn't do it. However, during police investigations and interviews, Lizzie changed her story. Despite her notorious media character, she was acquited. The mystery is still ongoing. 
After the trial, Lizzie was caught shoplifting and arrested. She was made an outcast but later befriended a celebrity called Nance O'Neil, who introduced Lizzie to parties and a wild flamboyant lifestyle. Lizzie became ill and died on 1st June 1927. She left a Will and $500,000 went towards an animal shelter and the rest towards her remaining relatives.    

By Rayne
Art by Krista Hout

Friday, 6 October 2017


There was a girl who was the daughter of a miller. She was pretty and also clever at spinning pure gold silk from ordinary cotton. That was because she used colourings and some of her own strands of hair. The king heard stories about this amazing girl weaving and spinning gold. He sent for her and then he locked her up inside a tower room full of straw. He ordered her to make as much gold thread as possible using the straw by morning or he’ll cut her head off.
Scared and wondering what to do, a little imp creature appeared magically in the room. He told her that he would help her to spin gold from straw if she gave him her pretty necklace (pink Mother-of=Pearls that was a birthday gift from her late father).
The following morning, the king was impressed by the gold that the girl managed to make from straw. The ungrateful king took her into another room and it was filled with much more straw and some bits of rubbish. Again he threatened to chop off her head if she didn’t make gold by tomorrow. 
Again the imp arrived and spun all of the straw as well as some rubbish, turning into piles of pure sparkling gold. The imp wanted the girl’s ring. It was a silver ring with a small diamond, a heirloom gift from her late mother.
The king took the girl to a larger room fill of bales of hey. He told her aggressively that he’ll chop off her head and stick it on a spike if she doesn’t turn all of it into gold by tomorrow morning. He said if she does make all of this gold, he will marry her. The girl ran out of things to pay for the imp in exchange for turning the hey into gold. The imp told her that he will spin all of the bales of hey into gold if she agrees to give him her future baby. The girl felt obliged to agree and the imp spun the entire bales of hey into pure gold silk.
So the king married the girl and a year later she gave birth to a baby son. Shortly after the baby was born, the imp appeared. He demanded his payment, which was the baby. The young queen was scared and told him that she’ll give him her jewels and finery. The imp didn’t care about all that. He wanted her child as that was the deal agreed to. Soon the imp decided that he’ll not take her child then if the queen was able to guess what his name is. He said he’ll return after three days. The young queen was at a loss in what to do. For two days she was afraid and desperate to think of what name the imp has. 
Then the day before the imp arrived, she went out into the forest hoping to spy on him. She found him by a small house, hopping around a bonfire, singing.
"Tonight tonight, my plans I make, tomorrow tomorrow, the baby I take. The queen will never win the game, for Rumpelstiltskin is my name'.
The following day, the imp appeared to the queen and asked if she knew what his name was. She told him “Rumpelstiltskin” and the imp grew so angry that he banged his foot into the floorboard. He remained stuck there forever, always laughed at and seen as the fool.
Then end.

Written by Rayne Belladonna
This story is based on the fairytale "Rumplestiltskin" by the Brothers Grimm.

Monday, 2 October 2017

Are dragons a memory of dinosaurs?

On Quora I answered a question "Why do so many ancient cultures have dragons, even though they are on different continents." Here was my answer:

Some people believe that this is a throwback memory of prehistoric times. Early mammals were present during the dinosaur era. There wasn’t any evidence of humans living at the time of the dinosaurs. Another point is that there are theories to suggest that we have strong memories, passed down from our ancestors. Hereditary memory. It’s not fully researched yet. If this is the case, and hereditary memories are real, they could explain a lot. That may cause us to wonder how far back in time these memories stretch. Would they go back to when our own ancestors lived during the Ice Age? What about long before then when our common ancestors were just hunters and knew mammoths?
I’m sure this may be it, guys. Hereditary memory about Ice Age mammals have sort of given humans the idea of certain monsters and beasts. In Greek mythology, a cave belonging to a giant cyclops had in recent years, been found to have fossils of woolly rhino and other Ice Age animals. How did people from the Ice Age get to hunting and risking their lives with beasts to ancient Greeks with their cyclops? Could these beasts be fragmented, unexplained memories distorted with visions of fear? I guess mammoths were frightening and wonderful but awesome. How did our ancestors find them? I guess they might’ve had feelings of respect and fear. Possibly saw them as food. Either way, their memories of the mammoths would pass down though thousands of years. To the time of the ancient Greeks, the descandants of those Ice Age hunters would not remember what mammoths were or looked like. But they would carry the fear of something enormous and powerful with giant horns.
Okay dragons. Here be dragons. Could our distant ancestral relatives from a time way before the Ice Age be able to pass down memories? Mammals alive during the last era of the dinosaur age wasn’t human. Here is it:
Is that small mammal creature able to pass down vivid memories of dinosaurs to us modern humans? It sounds unlikely and stupid but is it? Where did the dragons come from? Surely they were real? or were they dreams? Or dreams and real both combined? Yes, a time of the dinosaurs was real, and early human ancestors that looked like this had coexisted with them.
But what about all the stories and legends of dragons? Where did that come from?
I have an idea that may be spiritual other than physical. Dragons could be the spirits or spirit guides of the deceased dinosaurs that were seen by people throughout history. Obviously modern humans have lost the ability to see things. Perhaps dinosaurs didn’t all get wiped out 65 million years ago. Perhaps some survived and became our dragons.
End of post by Rayne Belladonna.
(On further thought, dragons might've been surviving species of dinosaurs, maybe a very altered and magnificent type that breathed fire). Anyway, if humans didn't live at the same time as dinosaurs, why are there cave paintings of dinosaurs that were made by prehistoric humans?


Thursday, 28 September 2017

My view on Snow White

In reply to the question "Was Snow White bad?" here is my reply.
No she wasn’t bad. Snow White was a young princess who was destined to die. She eventually died but was brought back to life again from a kiss. There is a lot more to Snow-White because the tale itself is extremely old. It goes back to pre-Christian times.

Snow White is a tale of an immortal, perhaps a goddess, who wakes from the dead or long periods of sleep as it may be. There are ancient myths of young goddesses who return to the earth after disappearing for a while. In such stories, Persephone was stolen and disappeared in the underworld. She returned to the earth every Spring.

There is also Easter origins and the goddess Eostre/Ostarra, who appears to Midgard (land of humans) after a while. Sleeping goddesses or “dead” goddesses wake up after a cycle has passed. Then they return to sleep or the underworld again, only to come back again.

Snow White could be based on such a combination of these ancient young goddess myths. Another sleeping/dead princess is “Sleeping Beauty”. Woken by a prince, a warrior or hero. Again the archytype of those princes waking up these magical princesses from death sleep is like Sigurd the dragon slayer waking up the sleeping dead Valkyrie.

So no, Snow White isn’t “bad” or evil. She’s the Maiden aspect of the Goddess. There are many goddess maidens found in all European myths, such as Persephone, Eostre, Artemis, Skadi, Athena, Valkyries, Iris, ect. who inspire modern girls. All those Disney princesses are the Divine Maidens, goddess girls, who’s stories have ancient origins to begin with. 

by Rayne Belladonna 
Posted from the original

Thursday, 21 September 2017

Dangerous animals in Britain

There are some dangerous wild animals in UK. People don’t think so because the large land predators were wiped out centuries ago. The dangerous animals in modern British Isles are the following:
Bees and wasps or the sub group Aporcrita, give out painful stings and can kill. These insects are responsible for about 5 deaths in the UK each year. People with an allergy towards the bee and wasp stings can die.
Domestic dogs, although not wild animals as such, and considered as mans best friend, are responsible for many attacks and deaths in the UK each year. About two thousand people each year survive dog attacks but many people have died. More people are killed by dogs than by terrorists, according to some posts. There is a rising figure showing more dogs attacking and killing livestock also. However, there is still a terrible figure showing the amount of dogs attacked, abused, neglected and killed by humans.
Red deer is a beautiful and sacred wild animal that lives freely in the UK. However, during the Autumn months, a season to find a mate, these powerful beasts with their antlers turn agitated. These deer have killed people, but the deer are also killed on roads that also cause some car crashes and deaths.
Cows, as in wild. There are wild cattle in the UK but also beware of farm cattle too. They’ve been known to injure and kill people. People love camping, hiking and exploring the countryside and woods. They also come across ferocious herds of wild cattle, especially bulls. Dog walkers and farmers especially have been attacked.
Snakes, the British countryside has deadly snakes hiding in the grass. Always beware when going out for a stroll on a sunny day, and not walk too near the bushes. Britain has a poisonous snake called the Adder. There has been about 15 deaths occuring from snake bites in UK since the 19th Century. But many hundreds of people have been bitten and treated instantly. Fatalities of snake bite occurs with dogs and cats. There are other snake species in UK not poisonous but they give a nasty bite.
Killer whale / Orca, a powerful sea predator animal that migrates. It’s been seen around the coasts of Britain. These vast whales often eat seals and not humans but their presence deserves mentioning here. More British people are surfing these days and enjoying the water in sails and skuba diving. Just be aware.
Another thing about the seaside… Jellyfish. These are found in the sea around the UK. Most of them are native British jellyfish.
Another sea creature to avoid is the Blue Bottle or Portuguese Man o’ War. It’s a venomous hudrozoa found in the Atlantic ocean and can be seen in British waters. It’s responsible for deaths all around the world.
Foxes are a small predatory canid animal but responsible for attacks on mainly birds, rabits, domestic cats, children and even sheep.
Britain’s only true poisonous spider is the False Black Widow spider, but it rarely bites humans. Some people who’ve been bitten by one end up in hospital for treatment.

By Rayne Belladonna

Friday, 15 September 2017

My answers on dragons and meditation

I answered some questions on Quora and felt like posting them here.

Q 1. "Why do dragons guard treasures?"

My answer: It isn’t just treasure that dragons guard. Treasure has come to mean that but also treasure is life itself and the earth’s recources. Dragons protect water, forests, soil, mountains, sky and treasures. But there are many things inside treasure hordes that appeal to dragons.

Gold protects against heat radiation. Silver reflects light. Gold has the ability to control temperatures and is used in space technology. Gold doesn’t rot or rust. As for gems, sapphires are used in making radio, communications and signals far as into outer space. Diamonds are used in laser beams, drills, and able to cut into granite and stones. Rubies make clockworks and digital images.
With this info, dragons need the powers of gold and gemstones to enhance its strength, size, mobility, fire lungs and intelligence. Dragons are also part of the spirit realm as they were once creatures who ruled the earth. Dragons are the true guardians of the planet so they guard the earth’s treasures.

Q2. "Have you ever seen a supernatural/mythic creature?"

My answer: I’ve seen willo-the-wisps, orbs, fairy lights and faefolk, yes. These appear over the cornfield near my old house some nights. Other times I’ve found them in my house, acting like intelligent insects but they’re not bugs at all, just glowing balls of light.
As a 5 year old playing in the back garden, until sunset, I was astonished to see a “dragon” appearing in the trees. There were large fruit trees at the back of the garden. It showed an outline of a true dragon and it seemed to move, as if walking right through the trees. I called my grandad who was inside and he came out and smiled. He didn’t see what I saw. Right after that day, I made sure to look for the “dragon” inside the trees but it was gone. It never returned.

Q 3. "How can I deal with fearful imaginations during meditation?"

My answer: You should try and relax and take deep breathes. Your imagination needn’t happen at all. When you meditate you must first be extremely relaxed. No noises or strong lights. Close the windows if its too cold and wet. Keep yourself comfortable. Make sure you’re not going to get interrupted. Any disturbance can interfere with your meditation.
I think meditation can happen if you are laying down and have a soft pillow or you’re in bed preparing to go to sleep. The worst that can happen is being stopped. When you’re relaxed, just think of nothing but whatever makes you calm. If the beach makes you feel calm, visualise only this. Allow yourself to enjoy this scene.
For me, a true meditation involved almost dreaming as if asleep and it often puts me to sleep. You’re imagination is probably too noisy and you’ve got to make sure that you switch that off by feeling calm.

Monday, 11 September 2017

Not all werewolves are male

In answer to the question "Why are Werewolves originally male?" this is my reply:

It all goes back to ancient times. It’s to do with the warriors. Berserkers and wolf-headed Ulfhednar gangs. Werewolves mainly used to be ferocious warriors that became wolves on a battle field. Later werewolves became lone werewolves hunting stray humans and animals at the edge of villages. Rabies in animals made up a lot of werewolf superstitious fears. There are a number of records of mass murderers happening in isolated villages with werewolf stories around them. The story “Little Red Riding Hood” was based on these folklore fears of lone strangers, werewolves and monsters. The culprits were usually men and some were boys. Rarely were they women.

There are stories of goddesses turning into wolves. Valkyries riding on wolves, and some of them turning into wolves. In Lebanon during the 6th Century, people were totally scared of the “wolf women” who appeared often at nights, so there were religious protections carried out. A similar thing happened in the year 1591 the town of Jurich was bombarded with attacks from werewolves, males and females. Apparantly it was said to be “hundreds” of werewolves. Soldiers went out to kill these werewolves and found that many of the female werewolves were dressed as nuns.

Plenty of people who were supposedly werewolves were executed as witches in the Middle Ages. It was said that many of the women tried for witchcraft had shape shifting abilities and rode wolves, just as the Norse Valkyries do.

By Rayne Belladonna


Friday, 8 September 2017

Two White Goddesses

Skadi and Artemis. 

In reply to the question "What are some goddesses in other mythologies similar to Artemis?" I posted something that I felt should be coped and pasted here, but with some of my add ons.

Goddesses in Norse mythology similar to Artemis, the huntress, would be Skadi and Eostr. Skadi is a winter goddess, and also a huntress and goddess of wild animals like Artemis. Eostr (some call her Ostara) is a maiden goddess and lunar goddess similar to Artemis. The egg and wild rabbit is sacred to Eostr and both egg and rabbits are lunar images. Also some of the Valkyries are like Artemis for they participate in the Wild Hunt at night.

Artemis is a White Goddess. Skadi is also a White Goddess too. Skadi and Artemis are associated and seen with bow and arrow. Skadi is the Norse Artemis.

Original post here 

Questions YOU may ask me now:

"What is a White Goddess"?
There is a book called "The White Goddess" by Robert Graves. The White Goddess itself is a term I used to describe the goddess of light, or moonlight, starlight, frost, snow and spirits.

"Who is Artemis"?
Artemis is a Greek goddess of the hunt. She's a maiden and a goddess of the moon, woods, wild animals and purity. She's the sister of Apollo.

"Who is Skadi"?
Skadi is the Norse goddess of winter. She's a maiden and a goddess of snow, hunting, skiing, wild animals and purity. She's also a giantess.


Book reference "The White Goddess" by Robert Graves 
The Broom Closet: Skadi 

Wednesday, 6 September 2017

Gloom Girls Project: Countess Bathory

This is a new project about dark ladies, iron maidens and evil queens. It's the opposite to my "Golden Girl Project" series that I made years ago on this blog. Golden Girls is all about ladies of light. The Gloom Project is about ladies of darkness. Obsidious beauty, dark souls and stone hearts. Each post will focus on one such lady of gloom. 

Countess Bathory

The most famous evil lady was none other than Countess Bathory. Everyone who's heard of her will tell you that she soaked in the blood of virgins to keep herself looking young and beautiful. She's known as the bloody countess, blood countess and Countess Dracula. Who was she?
Countess Bathory was born Elizabeth Bathory in Nyirbator, Hungary, on 7th August 1560. Her family owned land in Hungary and Transylvania. The sinister coat of arms of Nyirbator shows a green land background with a golden sheep wearing a golden flag, standing on a monstrous red claw with sharp talons. The Bathory coat of arms show jagged three red and three white fangs. Elizabeth's coat of arms is of a green griffin sat upon a pair of giant dragon's teeth.
As a little girl, she was raised in Ecsed Castle, now a ruin today. In her teens, she had a close friendship with a local peasant boy and got pregnant.The baby was given away to a peasant family in Wallachia. She was married off to Ferenc Nadasdy, but Elizabeth wanted to keep her name "Bathory" as she didn't want her husband's name. The entire marriage was arranged and political, not based upon love. The wedding was extravagant with thousands of guests. There was a great feast, where planty of food was served including wild pig, venison, swan, peacock, duck, fish and ox, all stuffed with fruits and herbs. Roasted vegetables, fresh bread, wines and honeyed sweets. There were plenty of musicians, as well as court jesters and their trained dogs and monkeys performing tricks. Soon, Elizabeth had to live with her husband in Nadasdy Castle. Such a castle looked like something straight out of a fairytale with cream coloured walls and sky blue turrets. It still stands there today.
Elizabeth found herself alone because her husband often went away. During this time, there was war against the Ottomons, and Elizabeth had to run the estate and deal with internal politics. It was where she started developing materials on making blood magic. She was vain and obsessed with her looks. Fair light skin, dark raven coloured hair that tumbled down, she had an hourglass figure, large pale grey eyes with long lashes and blood red ruby coloured lips. Her beauty was like the Snow-White princess of stories but when she smiled, all of her teeth were sharp as daggers. 
Over the years with her husband's coming and goings, Elizabeth had given birth to four children. Her husband became unwell and died at the age of 48 years old. Once he was gone, Elizabeth took control of everything and expressed her dark powers as a frightening blood countess that made her a legend.
Soon Elizabeth was being questioned by authorities. Investigations were carried out after many disturbing reports about her made by a variety of people from many backgrounds, rich and poor. A lot of young women and girls were disappearing around the land, daughters of poor farmers and daughters of rich people. Many indicate that something sinister was going on. These girls were reportedly taken to Elizabeth's castle, with the promise of work as hand maidens, but ended up physically abused and tortured to death. It was said that Elizabeth carried out these cruelties in Cachtice Castle, that she owned. That skeleton castle on a hilltop had been a wedding gift to her. Corpses were found half buried, and unmarked graves full of the victims of young women who died from such cruel methods. Some had said Elizabeth drank human blood and ate human flesh.
When Elizabeth was arrested, she was caught then and there in the horrible act of torturing a woman. There were bodies of dead women throughout the castle. Living women were found crying after just being tortured. There were sobbing women locked up in tiny dark cells infested with rats and feaces.
She was put on trial and imprisoned. Eventually Elizabeth died in a cell room, and was buried at Ecsed originally but her body was moved a couple of times since and the whereabouts of Elizabeth's remains are unknown. 

By Rayne Belladonna          

Saturday, 2 September 2017

Spooky graveyard memory

When I was 14 years old. A friend of mine from school took me to see a “spooky church in the woods”. I couldn’t wait to see it while she was telling me all about these really scary ghost stories. I hadn’t been that way before so it was my first time going to see that famous church. (It was “famous” among the kids).
When we arrived there I noticed how very depressing it was. A massive graveyard, loads of trees and a vast number of stones. The church was filthy and decrepit with holes in the roof and ravens flying in and coming out. It was a really ancient looking church left abandoned goodness knows how long. The doors were pretty much rotted and trees were growing into it.
The graveyard was so old. Much of the stones were too old and I couldn’t read them as the engravings were faded. Some were covered in moss or black stains, or sunken into the ground. My friend wandered off towards that horrible church and something made me not go any further. She called me to lets go and explore this church but I didn’t want to. I just felt this barrier and I was sat down behind a stone, feeling so scared and really trapped.
I knew that if I went closer to the church, I might see something scary. I just decided to walk away and so I did, but my friend was really annoyed. Anyway I’ve got a blocked memory of this day. Weeks after we visited that creepy old church, friend told me that a ghost appeared and asked me if I saw it. She claimed it appeared in the graveyard near where I sat but I don’t remember.
Many years later I discovered that my dad used to visit the place when he was a kid. He went with friends and he told me that it was a ruined church back then during the 60′s. I visited the place 15 years later, and the church wasn’t there anymore, neither were those massive grave trees. They put a new church building in its place and it was active.

(Originally posted by me in Quora)

Sunday, 27 August 2017

Vampires and werewolves

I posted an answer to a question on Quora yesterday that I want to post here. The question was "If a vampire bites a werewolf would it be a vampire, a werewolf vampire or still a werewolf?" And I shall post the link to it at the bottom of this entry. Here is my comment (different pictures used here, some paragraphs made and slight edits:

A vampire is undead. It should be affected by a werewolf bite. If a werewolf was bitten by a vampire, the werewolf would probably die. If an ordinary wolf or a dog were bitten by a vampire, they would become savage monsters. Werewolves and vampires crossing over is Hollywood. In actuality, werewolves are not as you think, but neither are vampires. I’ll spare you the boring historic answers. I’ll jump straight to the original meanings in Europe. 

A werewolf originally was a warrior who dressed in a wolf’s pelt and wolf’s head, entered battle and took on this berserker (Ulfhednar) mode, or blood rage. Vikings included Berserkers and Ulfhendar. So feared were they, these animals (mainly wolves and bears) turning into men with weapons. It’s also to do with the fact these selected warriors of Berserkers and Ulfehdnar had lycanthropy and were shamanic therianthropes. 

Vampires started out as ghost stories of the dead returning to feed on the blood of the living. They have tales from various sources but linked with parasitic entities. Some true vanpires they say are people who suffer rare skin conditions and blood disorders. Vampires and werewolves both reached their horrific reputations thanks to history itself, mass murderers, ruthless blood suckers, infamous warlords, the Plague and rabid animals. Then you’ve got the early gothic horror literatures (dark fairytales like Bram Stoker’s “Dracula” and “Red Riding Hood” by the Brothers Grimm).
Werewolf fiction
Vampire fiction
We’ve been on a diet of films and TV for generations now. Amongst that is full of horror stories, films, dramas and series on werewolves and vampires. Music also, art too. People love to be scared. So when a vampire bites a werewolf, is it a diseased undead person biting a warrior shapeshifter with rabies? Or is it an undead person who loves drinking blood for survival? Is the werewolf someone controlled by the moon into becoming a wolf? or is it someone who is just mad?

Rayne Belladonna

Link to the original question thread

Monday, 21 August 2017

Ghost Grass

The most toxic plant towards other plants is Ghost Grass. Grown as a native plant in Asshai, by The Shadowlands, it's a luminous grass that appears to glow during moonlight. It's a very light colour "pale as milkglass" and pale as a ghost! This grass is extremely tall and so creepy that its widely believed that Ghost Grass will kill off the world's native plants. It could destroy all trees, flowers, herbs, crops and vegetables. Its foretold that the world will end by the spread of Ghost Grass. According to maps, Ghost Grass is often found at the bases of mountains of The Shadowlands. It grows all along Asshai and the Saffron Strait and touching the northern reaches of Yi Ti. Ghost Grass is an invasive plant that contaminates other plants. People working in mines of those mountains where Ghost Grass grows, tell tales about it. The miners breathe in ash and risk their lives for gems. The Ghost Grass is luminous in the dark, said to be filled with spirits. Is it a foreshadowing of the Long Night? of the coming Winter and its snows of death?

Asshai reminds me of the forbidden Exclusion Zone of Chernobyl in our own earth world. I'll mention a little more about this in a moment. In the Shadowlands are cities made of oily black stone, dark perpetual mists, tall Ghost Grass, constant artificial nights caused by dark clouds, ancient volcanoes, underground and hidden lava flows in fortresses, Ash River joins with the Jade Sea, palaces, castles, a small population and apparantly no animals or children in sight. One building in ten is lit at night. Gemstones, gold, amber, silk and dragonglass is exported from Asshai at the trading routes and ports along the region. A massive vast mountain range called Bone Mountains act as a wall between Essos, Asshai and Vaes Dothrak. The Dothraki are wary of people from Asshai and call them "spawn of shadows".

One of the greatest known cities of the Shadowlands is Stygai. It's other name is "City of Night". The place is full of evil, its said by travellers, and they have said dragons and demons live there. The city is so dark that the sun only shines there for a short brief moment during noon. There are libraries within the dark cities and towns of the Shadowlands, but kept hidden. None dare venture to study these books, for its kept under guard. Asshai is full of dragonlore, faith of R'hllor, necromancers, warlocks, human sacrifices, shapeshifters, werewolves, worshippers of the Lion of Night, Black Goat and The Pale Child. The red priestess, Melissandre, comes from The Shadowlands of Asshai. The dragon eggs given to Daenerys Targaryen as a wedding gift come from the Shadowlands. It's my view that some of the people living in The Shadowlands are from all walks of life, outcasted, or seeking a new and darker path, as well as those who've joined the place and live in veils, covered up and appearing as shadowy beings. Very few children would be there, those who've been raised to learn the secret crafts of the warlocks and mages of sinister belief systems. The few people living there are nocturnal and spend most time sleeping or not even in human form.

The place similar to such a location on our world is Chernobyl and its 30 Kilometre Zone. Contaminated plants and animals have been described as monstrous, glowing in the dark, mutations and kept away from spreading beyond. There are 11 checkpoints, deadzones of the region: Pripyat, Poliske, Vilkhova, Stari Sokoly and more. The pine trees were destroyed by radiation many years ago and what grows there is a blood curdling forest nicknamed "the Red Forest". Wild animals such as wolves, deer, horses, boars, badgers, birds and others have flourished and procreated, but observed by game wardens. Household pets that were left abandoned during the crisis in 1986 have sadly all died out. No domestic animal has survived this disaster. Only wild animals have claimed this territory as theirs now since humans left. Water contaminated by radiation is blocked from entering the rest of the supply using dams. The grasses have been known to cause small fires that create filthy plumes.

Water in Asshai (the Shadowlands) is known to be contaminated. The only fish that live in it are blind and deformed and sometimes eaten by the shadow mages and warlocks. The fruits grown on trees are deadly. Its creepy looking cities were built centuries ago but abandoned by the original populations, for unknown reasons. Those who live there now dabble in the most strangest and darkest practices. I believe that George R. R. Martin's uses psychic channelling with otherworldly spirits. This world Planetos is a mirror of our own world Terra. The dark landscapes of Asshai and the Shadowlands reflects Chernonbyl.

Above, there is a photo that represents a woman from Lys, visiting the Shadowlands and is standing in Ghost Grass.

Ghost Grass
An excellent video of The Shadowlands by Scrivia TV

Thursday, 17 August 2017

Mortals becoming Gods and Goddesses

I posted an answer to a question on Quora "How can a mortal become god/goddess in Greek mythology?" It was solely about Greek mythology but I also included non-Greek myth examples. This is what I wrote:

Yes. In real life, mortals became deified. Its similar to cannonising people into sainthood today. Okay a list of deified mortals in Greek myth includes:

Dioscuri (Helen of Troy’s twin brothers)
(Edited: I want to add some more deified mortal women that includea Ino, Bolina, Hilaera, Hemithea and Parthenos. )

A few ways to becoming an immortal is:

Eating a mermaid, according to Japanese folklore, a young nun ate some ningyo meat and became immortal… she lived for 800 years.

Reverted elixir or haundan is used to help the body’s cells continue and keep working and working until the body never ages. Its cinnabar and Taoists regard it as an element of purifying the body. This method became lost in time when wealthy people in the Tang dynesty ate some and died. The true ways of getting this to harmlessly ingest and cause immortality has been forgotten.

Ingesting extinct plants caused immortality (or to be exact, a very polonged life). Peaches were once thought to give immortality but these fruits have become domesticated and ordinary now. Other fruits to give immortality are golden apples. These are found in a secret unknown orchard guarded by a goddess and a dragon. Ambrosia, a special honey drink or mead with an ingrediant lost in time gives immortality.

Original source at Quora here

Tuesday, 15 August 2017

Toxic mother and grandmothers

Just like the poisoned apples in fairytales, there are toxic family members in some peoples lives. My own mother and two grandmothers have never been accepting of myself since childhood. I was raised by relatives but trying to establish love with my own mother was difficult. I would say that she rejected me and didn't want me back. Such a similar thing happened with my two grandmothers, who would never accept me as part of their family. Why? Not sure.
As an adult and a mother myself, I could never understand how she could be so cold towards her own child. One of the possibilities for her being like this is because I remind her of my dad, who she hated later on. My parents remained together long after I was fostered as a baby, and they both seperated. The seperation costed money and the lives of several cats who found themselves homeless. Both grandmothers were rivals but each one of them resented me. One disliked me because I was different. The other wasn't warm because I was born out of wedlock and she didn't like my dad. Both sides of the family have been like strangers, influenced by these women, mother and two grandmothers. All three of them have sought to isolate me from family and they don't even want to see me again or see my child. I've come to terms with this awful fact, baffled as I am, and confused.
Mother and both my grandmothers have been so loving towards other children in the family, just not to me. I searched for any clues about this because I won't speak to them again. Grandmothers, even though they're elderly, will always not love me. Mother, in her 60's and always very beautiful has a heart of poison. When I last spoke to her, she told me to just die.
I go to folklore and psychology to learn what motivate these matriarchs to turn away one of their own children. There are fairytales and folk stories of evil stepmothers who try and kill their magical children. The Narcissistic Mother who are cold and hateful towards their daughters.


Hated Child
Daughters of Narcissist Mothers

Friday, 11 August 2017


There is much to be said about the map of Westeros. Here, I've cut a piece showing a part of the Riverlands with my own drawings of icons featuring Lyanna, Rhaegar and the three knights.

The Riverlands is a strange place. It's like our own world's Burmuda Triangle. Except, however, that the Riverlands are on land and not out at sea. The area plays a central part to the whole history of Westeros. I won't bring it too far back in time but will go back to the Tourney at Harrenhal and bring it to when Arya Stark was reunited with Nymeria.

The Riverlands is where the mysterious Isle of Faces exists. The Riverlands is where the Starks befriended a crannogman called Howland Reed. The place where the feast for the tourney happened, where Lyanna was seen crying while listening to prince Rhaegar playing his harp. It was where the Knight of the Laughing Tree came from, and vanished to. It's the same place where Lyanna Stark disappeared. It's the place where prince Rhaegar died. Its where Catelyn Stark arrested Tyrion Lannister and decided not to go home. It's where the direwolf Nymeria vanished to after being sent away. It's where Hot Pie lives and works now. Its where Arya found Nymeria.

The place is by the crossroads. Myths and legends about crossroads say that these are portals to the supernatural. At the Riverlands is an old woman called Ghost of High Heart.    

Wednesday, 2 August 2017

Gloom Girls Project: Medusa

This is a new project about dark ladies, iron maidens and evil queens. It's the opposite to my "Golden Girl Project" series that I made years ago on this blog. Golden Girls is all about ladies of light. The Gloom Project is about ladies of darkness. Obsidious beauty, dark souls and stone hearts. Each post will focus on one such lady of gloom.  


This once beautiful priestess did the bad thing and seduced a god in Athena’s temple. So enraged and offended was Goddess Athena that she struck down Medusa. Turning Medusa into a monster with slithering snakes for hair and a serpentine or (some versions) crocodilian body.

Despite her cruel features she had the ability to kill. She was a weapon. Armed with snakes, venom and powerful eyes that can turn anyone to stone if looking at her. She also used weapons from dead warriors. Everyone feared her. She was the most dangerous woman in the world.

Perseus the demigod hero chopped off her head while she was sleeping. Medusa’s blood was so poisonous that wherever it dripped, snakes appeared. Perseus rescues princess Andromeda using Medusa’s head as a weapon, by turning giants (titans) and monsters into stone.

Finally Perseus gives Goddess Athena the head of Medusa.She casts it onto Her blazing gold shield and carries it with Her. Even in death, Medusa is still bad.

(copied and pasted from Medusa on Quora, written originally by me, Rayne Belladonna).    

Friday, 28 July 2017

My 10 favourite dragons

The Azure dragon - One of the Chinese dragons. Azure dragon is blueish or blue and green in colour, and rules the season of Spring. Proper name is Ao Guang. I was born during the Spring so this is my dragon.

Wyvern - A type of big flying dragon that breathes fire. It looks like a winged T-Rex. Features in French and British heraldic crests and appears in stories and literature, games and films.

Bisterne - English dragon that dwelled in the New Forest.The exact same place where I used to play on holidays throughout childhood. This dragon lived in a secret den close to Burley. A knight killed this dragon outside Lyndhurst where the dragon’s body was left there, becoming weeded over and eventually buried under soil. The burial mound of this dragon is now still there and its called Bolton’s Bench.

Blue Ben - A water dragon that lived in the waters along the Somerset coast. It was able to breathe fire and often relaxed in the cool waters afterwards. The skeletal remains of Blue Ben was unearthed in the 19th Century and is on display in a museum called “Icthyosaur”.

Lambton Worm - The legend goes of a massive dragon near Lambton Estate in County Durham. It lived underground, wrapped itself around hills and poisoned rivers and wells. A cursader knight killed this ferocious monster but afterwards, the knight was cursed. His descendants cursed also in whats known as the “Lambton Curse”.   

Sarkany - This is a monstrous dragon from Hungary, a country that puts dragons in a good light.

Coca - A female dragon, ghostlike, pale and transparent. She’s also described as a shape-shifting dragon, who takes the form of other beasts to trick victims. Wax heads of Coca dragon were offered to goddesses including Black Madonna. She also fights against Saint George.

Ayida-Weddo - Rainbow serpent, and goddess dragon.

Nidhogg - Dragon in Norse mythology that’s immortal and sits between the lands of the living and the dead. Found in the soil and chews on tree roots belonging to Yggdrasil the World Tree.

Hydra - A many headed dragon with venom and appears in Greek myth.     

What are your favourite dragons? Do you prefer other mythological creatures? Do you like any of the dragons I've mentioned here? Post your comments here on this blog.

The dragon picture is by artist Kerem Beyit
(I answered this originally on Quora here

Tuesday, 25 July 2017

Golden Girl project Portal

This is a portal of the Golden Girl Project. These are powerful ladies of light, love, beauty and divine powers. Women avatars who paved new ideas and inspired many. Revolutionising the way people think of women.
I've written these posts years ago and they got lost in the pages of time. Now I've brought them back here in this folder. The reason I do this now is because it's the opposite to the darker new project "Gloom Girl Project".
Golden Girls are heroines of their day. They're also treasures and goddesses. I made just 10 of these ladies but there are many more, and lots of them not even famous or noble. I may expand on this project adding new Golden Girls in the near future.
Among these Golden Girls I listed years back are starlets, warrior maids and Four Beauties of China, goddesses and fairytale princesses.
Marilyn Monroe
Yang Guifei
Wang Zhaojun
Daio Chan
Helen of Troy
Lady Godiva
Joan of Arc
Xi Shi

(There will be more to come soon...)

Gloom Girls Project: Wu Zetian

This is a new project about dark ladies, iron maidens and evil queens. It's the opposite to my "Golden Girl Project" series that I made years ago on this blog. Golden Girls is all about ladies of light. The Gloom Project is about ladies of darkness. Obsidious beauty, dark souls and stone hearts. Each post will focus on one such lady of gloom. 

Wu Zetian

A true life wicked queen of “Snow White” we have Wu Zetian. Wu Zetian is the only woman to rule the empire in China. Alive during the Tang Dynesty, she started off as a concubine to Taizong and when he died, she married his son, Gaozong. When he died, she then killed her own sons to remove them from the throne. With her sons gone, she became the ultimate power. It’s believed that she had her own daughter murdered and framed another called Lady Wang.

The first woman to sit on that throne, but as soon as she took to the throne, an earthquake happened. People saw it as an omen of doom. Then after this disastrous earthquake, a mysterious mountain appeared. Pople saw this as nature rising up against the dark queen empress. However, Wu regarded it all as a wonderful signs from divinities.

She had Lady Wang and others butchered by cutting off their hands and feet and drowning them in vats of wine. She altered the name from Tang to Tianzhou. All family members of former Tang leaders put away in dungeons and had herself deified (making everyone believe she was the incarnation of a Meitreya Holy Spirit). She had statues of Meitreya carved to resemble her face. This woman altered government and the writing system. She placed many reforms into the country from schools and police, agriculture and taxation.

She reopened the Silk Road after it had been closed for a long time because of the plague. As time went on, the more paranoid and withdrawn she became. She had a host of adonis men, which everyone saw as entirely flawed in her character. Wu executed anyone that questioned her or criticised her. As a result of this insanity, a large number of her own administration shrunk. She had just very few supporters and spent time with a few men, but herself lost in drugs and aphrodisiacs. Eventually she had the closest to her killed. Soon she wasn’t fit to rule and then her exiled son, Zhongzong, took the throne. Its said she died of ill health soon after.

(copied and pasted from Wu Zetian on Quora, written originally by me, Rayne Belladonna)  

The Portal of Golden Girls Project here (soon)

Thursday, 20 July 2017

Wolf healing gemstones

There are many types of wolves in the wild. Each wolf has different traits, features, colourings and personalities. And those wolves are also linked to nature, and have a hidden side within a gemstone. It's message is clear. Some people may have gemstones and need to tap into the hidden message of the wolf. Wolves within gemstones are not trapped spirits. Gems and crystals are a tool from wolf to humans.

The Prehistoric Wolves:
Dire wolves, Armbrusters and Canis Edwardii have fossils and ambers, meteorites and old shells.

Tropical Wolves:
Maned wolves, dingoes, Indian wolves, Ethiopian wolves and Egyptian Jackels. They're stones will be the hot gems that are citrines, labradorites, topaz, jaspers, rubies and garnets.

Eurasian Wolves:
Tundra wolves, Common grey wolves, Iberian wolves, Steppe wolves, Italian wolves, Tibetan wolves, Iranian wolves, Arabian wolves, Honshu wolves and Hokkaidu wolves. These wolves work best in moonstones, sapphires, lapis lazuli, aquamarine and amethysts.

Americana Wolves:
Red wolves, Arctic wolves, Mexican wolves, Great Plains wolves, Timber wolves, grey wolves, Rocky Mountains wolves, Texas wolves, Greenland wolves, Manitoba wolves, Vamcouva Island wolves, Alaskan wolves, Hudson Bay wolves, Mountain wolves, Canis Lupis Ligoni wolves. These wolves can be channelled with using scolecite, blue calcite, peridot and emerald.   

Each gemstone has a wolf message for you. If you feel unwell, hold one of these stones. For example, if you should hold a ruby, visualise a wolf. That wolf would send healing. All of the gems have healing properties and if you can delve deeper, wisdom from wolves too. Its there only if you want to find it.

The ruby stone is powerful and the colour of blood. In a dream of rubies, it's interprated by me that wolf is sending a message about your blood and this could be your health or kin.
Aquamarine is a light stone of the water element. In a dream of aquamarines, wolf's message to you is regarding travel long distances.
Emeralds in dreams are a strong wolf sign that is suggesting the colour green, earth and nature, your garden, your place in the land on soil and even your diet.

If you can't understand messages from wolf in a stone, not to worry. Gems are able to heal and it's easy to look them up and find out which ones best suit you. And which stones will best fit your needs, wishes and desires.


Thursday, 13 July 2017

Incubus and Craster

Some brave women have reported experiences of being raped and sexually asaulted by paranormal entities. Since time began, there are stories of such incidents. Women have been traumatised by the memories. The rapists would enter their chambers, unseen, and appear sometimes invisible. If seen, these rapists looked like ghosts or sinister enities. Stories of the incubus started in ancient times after these random things happened. Incubus are male entities who rape women when they're in bed. Female versions of the entity who assault sleeping men are called succubus.

Tales of vampires entering through the windows to suck the blood of their sleeping victims. Even today, women and men report something unseen getting into the bed, touching them, or even waking people up while touching them and no one is there. 

In "A Song of Ice and Fire" novels, by George R. R. Martin, there is a man (wildling) who is the second most creepiest character after the Night King. His name is Craster. He lived in the dreary freezing far north, where he has a keep, animals, nineteen wives, most of who are his own adult daughters who get pregnant by him. All of the male babies born from Craster and his wives were sacrificed to the Night King so they turn into demon soldiers.

Are the incubus stories real? Some put it down to sleep paralysis, where a person is waking up and feels unable to move, that a weight is on their chests, causing fear, and visions of ghosts and scary figures in the form of ugly people and monsters appear inside the person's room. Often near the bed or under the blankets. The most frightening type of being who does this isn't a supernatural entity but a real person.It may be possible that incubus stories and experiences come from these sinister spirits of dead people who enjoyed assaulting others. Or it's just a fogment of ones imagination.

Thursday, 6 July 2017

I choose Athena

There is a question on Quora asking "If you could choose a Greek god for a parent, which one would it be?". So one then. I thought on it and posted my answer. I felt like giving this some advertisement and add here what I wrote:

It would be the goddess Athena. She can be motherly and teach girls that life isn’t all about being sexy for men. There’s more that she encourages a woman and girl to find within herself the power to be strong willed, able to defend herself, also with the courage to protect those she loves, to help nourish her family, provide (food, stability) for her children and parents and lovers. Athena is a goddess of war, arts and wisdom. Those are the three things that girls grow up missing.

War for girls: martial arts, survivalist skills, physical stamina, athletics, accuracy.

Arts: Creativity be it in crotchet, music, painting, writing, business ideas, computer gaming, clothes making, architecture, plans, drafts.

Wisdom: Sciences, plants, herbs, medicines, therapy, books, human psychology.
Athena can teach a girl growing up how to be able to live in the world without depending on others for support. How to read peoples body language and process who is a potential friend or foe. All these life skills and more. She could encourage imagination and inspiration. She’s also a beautiful goddess who knows she’s beautiful but she has armour and protects herself.

Originally posted by "Rayne Belladonna" at Quora.
The Art is by Tsuyoshi Nagano 

Saturday, 1 July 2017


“Blue Beard“ was the most creepiest fairytale storybook I read as a kid! It was about (if I can remember, without looking it up), a lady called Tulips met this strange mysterious man. He wasn’t exactly handsome but he was wealthy and strong. He asked her parents permission to marry her and that was granted. After they wed, Tulips moved into his spooky massive castle. He allowed her to explore the castle sometimes. There were many places she couldn’t go as it was hidden by locked doors. So one day he gave her a big set of keys.

“You may open every door in the castle and look around,” he told her. “All except one door at the top of the most highest tower stairs. It’s arched and made of dyed red wood with iron studs. There is a hematite above the door. Please never go in there. It’s forbidden for anyone to go in.”

After Bluebeard left, Tulips explored the entire castle. It took almost a whole couple of days. The following evening she decided to go up to the place that was forbidden. She found the door, and opened it. Inside the secret room was a frightening scene of frozen iced statues of women.

There is also blood stains on the floor and walls. Tulips ran from the tower room of frozen women. Later when Bluebeard returned home, she told him what she found in that room. He was so angry with her that he tried to kill her. Tulips escapes onto the battlements and screams for help. Her saviours arrived swiftly and they were her brothers.They killed Bluebeard with both swords. Tulips inherited the castle.

Monday, 26 June 2017

Sex in the Middle Ages

During the Middle Ages, sex was regarded as a form of political agreement among noble families, and everyone else it was a spiritual agreement with the Church, viewed as the place closest to God. So couples were expected to be married and have sex only to fulfil making heirs and families. With nobles and peasantry alike, young people were given a similar diet of spiritual teachings that informed them early on that marriage is a part of life. It was decided among families, especially the parents, on who their children should soon one day be married to.
Arranged marriages were done to set aside differences among feuding families, seal agreements, expand ownership of houses and land. Someone could be told the name of their future spouse but have never even met them yet. It could be years before they see their bethrothed. And on the wedding itself, it usually was the first time the couple met.
They would all have been given teachings from the Christian clergy that drummed into their heads the subject of sin. Sex was regarded as a form of evil sin and so the church made strict rules over a married couples private lives. A married couple were told that they should not have sex on certain days of the week,certain times of the month or certain times of the year. The church told couples not to enjoy sex and to have intercourse with just the missionary position.
However, the church was lenient on brothels!
People were raised to fear the wrath of the Christian god, and somehow felt that the clergy were able to communicate with this god, and be told about their breaking of rules in the bedroom. For that reason people feared the clergy who were the voices of God and messengers, or priests that conversed always with this supernatural divinity hidden behind the stained glass windows of the churches.
People of both nobility and peasantry were growing up too worried to do much about this. The general public of the Middle Ages were very much conformist out of mortal terror of this god, so much so that they complied with the rules.With regards to sex, did people ever become too passionate in bed to forget about the rules? Or did they feel too scared to enjoy each other?
We can gather that life was pretty mundane during the Middle Ages.
Yet it has an appeal. It's full of chivalry, romance, poetry, knights, merriment, and even naughtiness. Sexual intercourse itself was reserved strictly for married couples to produce children. But there were many times when people went about in a state of undress and touched one another. There is artistic proof of this, paintings of the Middle Ages for example as shown of men and women naked like modern hippies:
Public nudity and baths Middle Ages
Naked dancing 
Food, bath and sex
Group witness a couple in bed
Naughty weddings, or should I say weird weddings? After the main saying of vows, the feast, music and cheers, there were dreaded wedding nights that both couples often felt nervous about. Firstly, the bedding ritual (it was custom within all classes of people). The couple would be escorted to their chamber, get stripped of their clothes by guests and then were made to get inside their bed. Then the guests would leave the couple to themselves.
There was an even more nerve wracking custom than this during the Middle Ages. That was for the newlyweds to consummate their marriage in front of witnesses. Those witnesses often included the clergy and officials to ensure that the couple had completed their wedding. Among noble families usually, older relatives such as parents of the bride and groom were regarded as official witnesses to a marriage consummation. This was seen to get proof of a future heir being conceived.
Not only was sex difficult in the Middle Ages but not even private! We have the notion of knights in shining armour sweeping a fair maiden to his castle. Of minstrels being the pop stars of the day, making women swoon and love them. Of lords and princes and sirs on horseback, fighting with swords and arrows. Born from this era are favourite tales we know of including Robin Hood and his merry men, King Arthur and the knights of the Round Table, Merlin, Guinevere, Maid Marion, Merry olde England, as well as a host of fairytales and nursery rhymes.
With the age of war, torture, famine and plague, the fear of God, fear of the devil, fear of church and kings, and even fear of ones parents. We get mythical Middle Ages and romantic chivalry and beautiful maidens and knights so bold. How can we ever imagine what life was like unless we read books or look at paintings from the era? People of the Middle Ages had all these sets of rules to follow so they had to make do. And they did what they could, despite what the rules told them because we're here as a result aren't we.